A man among men, desire and truth at the forefront of his being,
All the while resisting the urge to destroy his will, to become part of the other, which holds his strength,
pushing away the opportunity to become intimate, to merge with the spirit of what is natural, combining masculine and feminine energies equally.

It is the realization that you can lose yourself at the same time you find yourself that can be frightening, a bit intimidating.
If you think of this in extremes, you may become excited with every ounce of your being because honestly, no one ever said you needed to give up freedom or who you are to immerse the core of you into the core of another.

The immersification of both energies can just add to who you are and intensify the anticipation of the future of who you may become.
Realize that you are who you are yet you can be more than that and other energies can aid greatly in that regard. Remember who you are, and in so doing, remember who I am.

An Inner Wakefulness

~Rumi

This place is a dream.
Only a sleeper considers it real.

Then death comes like dawn,
and you wake up laughing
at what you thought was your grief.

But there’s a difference with this dream.
Everything cruel and unconscious
done in the illusion of the present world,
all that does not fade away at the death-waking.

It stays,
and it must be interpreted.

And this groggy time we live,
this is what it’s like:

A man goes to sleep in the town where he has always lived
and he dreams he’s living in another town.
In the dream, he doesn’t remember
the town he’s sleeping in his bed in. He believes
the reality of the dream town.

The world is that kind of sleep.

The dust of many crumbled cities
settles over us like a forgetful doze,
but we are older than those cities.

We began as a mineral.
We emerged into plant life
and into the animal state, and then into being human,
and always we have forgotten our former states,
except in early spring when we slightly recall
being green again.
That’s how a young person turns
toward a teacher. That’s how a baby leans
toward the breast, without knowing the secret
of its desire, yet turning instinctively.

Humankind is being led along an evolving course,
through this migration of intelligences,
and though we seem to be sleeping,
there is an inner wakefulness
that directs the dream,

and that will eventually startle us back
to the truth of who we are.

Colin Martin and I celebrated our one year anniversary of having this radio show. We would love to hear from you, our listeners, to know which one was your favorite episode and how any of our shows may have helped you change your perspective or affect your life in a positive way. We have both been changed tremendously through this experience and for sharing our insights and steps along our journeys with you. What a treat…and we will continue to share more and more.

In honor of the 1 year anniversary, we are giving away gifts to 4 lucky people. The gifts I am giving away are: A free autographed copy of my book, an hour angel reading and an hour coaching session. Colin will be giving away an hour long CD titled “Breaking the Barriers to Love.” All you need to do to enter the contest is to send me an email at coaching@emergingsoul.com to tell me what your favorite episode is and how it has helped you to change your perspective on life or how your life has changed as a result. Then sit back and relax, you might win one of these prizes.

If you can’t choose just one episode, you can let me know how the shows have helped to shift your perspective on life and relationships as well as how things have changed as a result of the shows. Good luck and thanks for listening!

Q What do I do when I am aware of who my twin flame is before he is aware of it on a conscious level? What do I do if I remember what our souls have intended to experience and create together in detail and he does not fully know this? Do I hold space for him or do I continue along my life? Can I do both? Will he realize our mutual intentions and know that I am the one he is waiting for?

A In answer to your question, it is both. If you are aware of what you and your twin flame have intended on a soul level to experience and create together here on Earth before he/she is consciously aware of those details, then you can hold space for him/her to get to the point of remembering and then consciously choosing to move forward but you can also continue along your path. This is the balance of holding the intentions and the love for your twin flame within your heart but allowing yourself to enjoy the moment right here that is in front of you as well as all those who are directly in your life experience right now. What can you do in the meantime, the in between time before physical reunion with your twin? Connect with the inner essence of you. As you remember these details and recall your agreement with your twin as to your mutual life purpose/mission, then you can individually take the steps towards creating that mission, your part in the mission knowing that as you do so, you allow your twin to further awaken to that purpose. Therefore, as you hold the positive intentions for reunion and your purpose together, it will be created stronger and stronger in the physical direct reality as you come nearer and nearer to entering into each other’s lives. It is important to have the balance of being in the moment because it is this moment right now that guides you to the next moment. There are people that may guide you to the next person or the next situation/experience that brings you more understanding of who you are and what you are creating, just as when you walk, you put one foot in front of the other to get to the next part on your path, your journey. This is the same process, the balance of being here right now, with all of your awareness of the connection, the love, the mutual purpose in giving to the world that you hold with your twin in your heart, and allowing each moment to bring you to the reunion you know to be, which is already here within your heart, within the presence of now.

I had a powerful conversation with a dear friend of mine, Nenari Diamondlady, as we shared on the topic of the balance of holding intentions for what you desire to create while releasing them, knowing that what you desire is on the process of manifesting directly into your life experience. This letting go allows for you to choose joy and happiness right now in the moment. It is in letting go and being happy right now that you are able to deepen your faith and trust in the universe. If you were to hold onto your creations right now that are in the process of blooming, you can cause yourself to always be in the future. Let right now bring you to the next right now…

Q When you feel you are transitioning out of a soul
relationship… What if you are married to your soul mate and he or she does not want to end the current relationship? Should you stay in the marriage? How should you approach this?

A You may have heard this before but the best thing to do is to listen to your heart and what feels true and right for you. Sometimes, we can be quick to end a relationship when we are challenged rather than going through the roller coaster ride of emotions as we release the ego and really open to hearing the other person’s perspective as they share their feelings, needs, etc. It sounds like you are concerned about what his desires are for your relationship, meaning that you may stay in the relationship because of that, and I would say that if you are also feeling this way, then stay in the relationship and do the best you can to work it out.

The best thing when there are challenges that come up in a relationship is to have open, healthy communication. What I mean by that is allowing the other person to express what he is feeling without interruption and without judgment, even and especially if you don’t agree. Then you can express your own feelings in a non attacking manner. I recommend to my clients to say, “I feel,” a lot because it places the responsibility on you and not accusing the other person of anything, but just openly expressing how you both feel. The other thing is to know that nothing the other person says is personal against you. We react and interact in relationship with others from our previous experiences, our beliefs, behavior patterns, etc, so how we choose to be in any situation is from what we know.

Pay attention to what your heart is telling you, is this question coming from your inner voice confirming to you that you feel this transition occurring? Place yourself in the emotions you would feel if you were not in this relationship anymore, how do you feel? Imagine yourself resolving things and staying in this relationship, how do you feel? Is it your feelings that are telling you this or is it your soul mates or is others opinions? You are the one that is in this experience and not those who are around you, so it is best that you follow what you deeply know in your heart. Let it steer you…if you decide to transition out of this relationship, I would recommend still having open and healthy communication which will make it easier to transition with love and respect.

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Q I believe I have met my Twin Flame and have experienced many signs and synchronicities after meeting him. I have gone through everything I have read about what it feels like to have found your twin flame. And above all, in my heart I absolutely KNOW it’s him. But we haven’t yet expressed our feelings to each other and I don’t
know when that will happen if it ever does. But I do feel that he
feels something for me too. However without any confirmation, I often
lose hope and think that it’s all in my head. It’s a pretty crazy
situation to be in. I just hold on to what my heart tells me and try
to be patient, and let the universe speak for itself. I don’t know
how to proceed ahead in this and am always thinking if I do/say
something wrong I’m going to make things go the wrong way and break
the connection. Any advice you have? Could the inner voice and the
knowing of the heart ever be wrong?

A The inner voice and the knowing of the heart is never wrong. What makes it feel that way at times is the ego, coming through you and also other people if you share with them what your heart is telling you. You may have experienced that what you feel is truth and “knowing” for you can’t be explained to another. Well, you can try to explain it and they may hear you but they probably won’t understand it because those feelings, that confirmation, that heart knowing is for you as it is your truth, your path. I feel that we make a soul plan before we come into physical incarnation, including a plan with our twin flame, and the universe does guide us along the way. Our only job is to notice the signs around us and to remember what we planned to experience on Earth…but in addition to this plan, we were given free will, so that both you and your twin have a choice to choose to be physically together and in what capacity of relationship with each other.

The thing to remember here is that you are never separated from your twin. When either of you are in relationship with another person, you are both experiencing through it and if you are having other experiences/challenges (opportunities for growth) then you are both growing through this together. There is always a communication through thoughts, emotions and dreams. Have faith in this…I would recommend you listening to my TV interview I had in Hawaii. The link is here: http://emergingsoul.com/upcoming-events-interviews.php. It will help you with this concept.

The other thing is that nothing is ever a mistake, but every experience offers chances to grow within raising our consciousness in unconditional love and knowing that we are really never separated from each other. Believe me, I have had my share of experiencing these types of emotions while awaiting the reunion with my twin flame, so I understand the roller coaster ride of emotions and the doubt that can push its way through at times. The best thing I can tell you when this happens is to reconnect with your heart, your inner knowing, and keep the faith of what you know to be happening at the perfect moment. There is a balance that is needed to not keep you in the space of waiting and wondering, knowing that everything is in divine and perfect order as well as allowing yourself to be in the moment right now, enjoying life to the fullest.

We interviewed Susan Gregg, Reiki Teacher, Karuna Master, Toltec Master, Nagual and Author of many books, including Dance of Power and The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Spiritual Healing. Susan has studied under Don Miguel Ruiz as she learned a lot about the Toltec. Susan believes that the path of change is unique to each of us and she has found that the Toltec tradition can assist each and every person in finding his or her own inner truth, leading to a new way of being, one which is free of limitations. We can bring this new way of being into our relationships with ourselves and everything as well as everyone that comes into our life experience. Afterall, Susan feels that life is just one big relationship and I’d have to say that I agree!

Perhaps you have read and watched the movie, The Da Vinci Code, and found out that what is missing is the female essence. Perhaps you know this deep within you, you may have read it somewhere else, experienced it another way…let’s take a look deeper. We grew up with the story of Adam and Eve, with the message that it was the woman that turned Adam to “disobeying” the rule of not searching for knowledge…many of us now know that the real error or “sin” here was looking outside of ourselves for answers when the truth is that all we need to know is within, all knowing comes from within. So, there was a story created, to invoke the idea of separation, the separation of the woman and the man, the divine male energy and female energy. This lie is what created within us, as humans, to believe that not only are we separated from our divine counterpart, the other energy that is so naturally a part of us, but that we are separated from God and from absolutely everything we perceive in our human life experience.

Within this song, the Blood of Eden, by Peter Gabriel, he talks about how this blood, this feeling of separation has caused so much sadness, so much destruction that did not need to be…that the ones who created this story did so out of an attempt at controlling us, those within religion, those within higher power, hand in hand, wanting to control. They were afraid that if we knew the truth and connected to our internal, inherent divine power of creating anything in our lives we desire, by merging our energy with the opposite energy within us as well as in direct physical relationship, we would not be able to be controlled. It is now time…as all along, what we have always wanted, was the union, the union of the woman and the man, but also the union of all…as we are not separated from each other, from God or from anything else. Everything is one with the essence of love, of being.

Peter Gabriel – Blood of Eden lyrics

I caught sight of my reflection
I caught it in the window
I saw the darkness in my heart
I saw the signs of my undoing
They had been there from the start
And the darkness still has work to do
The knotted chord’s untying
They’re heated and they’re holy
Oh they’re sitting there on high
So secure with everything they’re buying

[Chorus:]
In the blood of Eden
Lie the woman and the man
With the man in the woman
And the woman in the man
In the blood of Eden
Lie the woman and the man
We wanted the union
Oh the union of the woman
The woman and the man

My grip is surely slipping
I think I’ve lost my hold
Yes, I think I’ve lost my hold
I cannot get insurance anymore
They don’t take credit, only gold
Is that a dagger or a crucifix I see
You hold so tightly in your hand
And all the while the distance grows between you and me
I do not understand

[Chorus]

At my request, you take me in
In that tenderness, I am floating away
No certainty, nothing to rely on
Holding still for a moment
What a moment this is
Oh for a moment of forgetting, a moment of bliss
Heyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy

I can hear the distant thunder
Of a million unheard souls
Of a million unheard souls
Watch each one reach for creature comfort
For the filling of their holes

In the blood of Eden
Lie the woman and the man
With the man in the woman
And the woman in the man
In the blood of Eden
We wanted the union
Of the woman and the man

In the blood of Eden
Lie the woman and the man
I feel the man in the woman
And the woman in the man

In the blood of Eden
Lie the woman and the man
I feel the man in the woman
And the woman in the man

In the blood of Eden
We’ve done everything we can
In the blood of Eden
Saw the end as we began
With the man in the woman
And the woman in the man
It was all for the union
Oh, the union of the woman, the woman and the man.